Have you ever had the experience of completing an assignment, and the recipient says, “Why did you do it like that? Didn’t you think to ____?” And you respond, “Oh, I didn’t know I was allowed to do that.” As soon as you say it you know you blew it, because you set up a rule for yourself that didn’t really exist. Or you followed a rule that really should have been nudged. Or you didn’t stand out against a rule that wreaked with stench.
If a rule should not exist — it is unfair, undignifying, harmful — consider pushing against it, knowing that you might pay a price for doing so. Gandhi did it; King did it. And avoid following rules that do not exist at all, except in your imagination. Who says what the rules should be? The community sets the rules, but you don’t have to add to them!
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